Have you harmed someone in your private or professional circle? Whether it’s the fault and your relationship, it’s in your best interests to ask for forgiveness.
But the problem is not at the level of “what to do?” “But rather” should I do it? You know to apologize, but you don’t want to.
Indeed, asking for forgiveness is an act that is not easy to do for most of us. To inspire you to take the plunge, you must understand the importance of this act.
Asking for forgiveness is an act for one’s own good
The interest of asking for forgiveness for oneself
If you are the one at fault, logic and decorum dictate that you are the one who takes the first step. But it happens that we are indisposed to do it out of pride, pride, pride, or others. However, know that asking for forgiveness is above all an act for oneself.
Indeed, asking for forgiveness requires that you first admit your fault. Recognizing that you are wrong is essential if you want to have peace within. Otherwise, the heavier the fault, the more it will weigh on your conscience.
You should know that for the most fragile among us, regret and guilt will eat away at them from the inside like a poison that slowly destroys the stomach. If you see the victim on a daily basis, it will be real torture to start the discussion.
The difficulty of the task depending on the type of attitude
Asking for forgiveness is not easy for everyone. For an extrovert who is turned towards others, asking for forgiveness is an essential need to feel good about themselves.
For an introvert, who is centered on his person, this need comes after his well-being. He has difficulty admitting his mistakes and justifies himself in different ways to alleviate his share of responsibility.
If you’re an introvert, you’re going to want to take your time to ask for forgiveness. But whether extrovert or introvert, asking for forgiveness is for your salvation.
Not sure if you are an extrovert or an introvert? Several characteristics are to be seen to understand the differences.
Asking for forgiveness for the sake of others
The interest of doing good to others
Asking someone for forgiveness is an act in two movements. The first act is to recognize your wrongs for your own good. The second act is to apologize for the good of the other.
By seeking to right your wrong with the other, you lessen their resentment, anger, and sadness. The feeling of injustice he experienced at the moment T gives way to understanding.
Depending on the nature and severity of the fault, the victim may forgive you right away or after a certain period of time. Either way, you will feel great relief. By adopting the right attitude, you take a weight off your shoulders and have a clear conscience.
Do not confuse excuse and forgiveness
Of course, it is not enough to apologize to obtain forgiveness from someone. Indeed, there is a big difference between the person accepting your apology and forgiving your fault.
For this, we must already understand the difference between excuse and forgiveness. The excuse is more a question of formality which allows the person at fault to clear himself of his action. In practice, we recognize our faults and express our regrets.
In that sense, apologizing is more a matter of social convention. As such, asking for forgiveness can commit you to do much more than apologizing in order to dispel resentments and make you forget the wrong you have committed.
Asking for forgiveness in anticipation of the future relationship
Asking for forgiveness to avoid later problems
Whether in private or professional life, you have to weigh your words well and adopt the right attitude so that you will not regret anything later.
If you are at fault but don’t apologize and ask for forgiveness, it can have serious consequences in the long run. Imagine that the victim is a next-door neighbor or a colleague that you have to be around every day.
In this context, the victim will have a bad image of you and act accordingly. The victim will distance himself and avoid interactions.
Over time, you may gain a reputation as an unfriendly person, as the victim will undoubtedly share their bad experience.
Getting forgiveness strengthens the relationship
Conversely, if you are at fault and ask for forgiveness, you earn points with the victim. Recognizing your mistakes and fixing them are qualities that are highly valued, no matter what environment you are in.
So, if you do it the right way, this accident can be the start of a great relationship. Indeed, later you will laugh at this situation and tell it to others as a nice anecdote.
My way of asking for forgiveness
To make your mistake a force, it is important to ask for forgiveness in due form. In practice, you should always start by admitting your faults before apologizing for the inconvenience caused.
Among my lived experiences is this time when I accidentally dropped my colleague’s meal. For this fault, I have offered a sincere apology.
By convention, he accepts my apologies, but that doesn’t prevent him from having a grudge and anger, because he had lost his lunch. In this context, paying him a meal was the action to be taken to obtain his forgiveness.
In short, asking for forgiveness is essential for its own good and obviously that of the victim. By adopting the right attitude, asking for forgiveness can open the doors to a good, friendly relationship with others.